With 2012 coming up a lot of people are talking about and considering what their New Year Resolution is going to be. When my kids were younger they would always ask what a new year reso...whatever was, and I would always tell them that it is a goal for the New Year. The very next new year I would get the exact same question followed with what was my goal this last year? It is easy to make a New Year Resolution, but remembering the goal throughout the year is a whole new problem. The New Year slowly just turns into another year, and life just goes on without any consideration of the resolution. I believe that this happens more often then not because people make a very wide open, no plan, very easily dismissed goals.
Here is a thought regarding a new way to make a New Year Resolution. Take time over the next few days, and truly think about everything that has happened or been done this year. What are some of the things you would like to of had happen differently? Take a piece of paper, write everything down that just came to mind, and then just think about the things that you wrote. What on that list is even capable of changing? Sometimes when we look at this list we might realize that certain things happened, because of action we took that if we had a do over we wouldn't take again. Sometimes it is a matter of noticing that perhaps we eliminated certain people from our lives over stupid things. Sometimes it is just a matter of noticing a pattern we seem to follow. Noticing these things takes time to really look at the things on our list with an object view point, and attempting to see it as if we were not the ones living that past year. Separate all the items on your list into categories: What I could of changed, What I can still change, Involves changing others (not gonna happen), and What I couldn't change even with a do over. It is time to focus on the first two categories....work on finding a common reason for these things happening. This is where you really notice and have to accept responsibility for your actions in the things that have happened. Now if your not willing to accept that then your New Year Resolution might as well go ahead and go to the trash. The common action that was done by you that had some kind of involvement in these things happening is your New Year Resolution. You can change things about yourself, but you have to first truly see it and take responsibility for it. Write this New Year Resolution on the top of a new piece of paper, and start writing down what you can do to make this change. Have a plan ready before New Year's Eve even gets here. Scan it, or take a picture of what your plan is make that your background for your computer, your cell phone, or tape it to your mirror. Make it so that you are continually reminded that you have a plan, and you want to make this next year a better year.
My New Year Resolution?....well I will let you know as soon as I am done making my list.
TJ
I gave it a lot of thought and decided to go with my top two issues of the last year. I am going to do my best at "Child Focused" Co-Parenting, and focusing on the things that I want accomplished in regards to business and personal aspect of my own life.